Dating?

[ali17]

What are the general rules for dating in Japan? Are they changing as more global influences creep in?

[Bueller_007]

What are the general rules for dating in Japan? Are they changing as more global influences creep in?

The biggest one is:
No displays of public affection (especially as a foreigner).

[patchmonkey]

No displays of public affection?

Where have you been hanging out, Bueller?

I see people nearly everywhere hooking up, whether it's japanese, foreigners, or mixed. Maybe it's a little more cosmopolitan here in Tokyo, but I haven't even seen a disapproving glance (except from other foreigners when people really go at it).

[Bueller_007]

No displays of public affection?

Where have you been hanging out, Bueller?

I see people nearly everywhere hooking up, whether it's japanese, foreigners, or mixed. Maybe it's a little more cosmopolitan here in Tokyo, but I haven't even seen a disapproving glance (except from other foreigners when people really go at it).

"Public displays of public affection" means, for example, making out. Not "hooking up" or "nampa". Do you really see as many PDAs in Japan as you do at home? In my experience, it rarely goes beyond holding hands in public.

And just because you may see it doesn't necessarily mean it's good form. Lots of girls put on make-up in the train, and lots of guys urinate in public when drunk. But these are things that "proper" Japanese simply don't do.

I lived in Osaka. Perhaps it really is quite different in Tokyo. I don't know. But I thought that the no PDA thing was pretty much common knowledge.

[Cruxay]

woah u actually explained it to him... when he gave u some e-attitude too lol.

my buddy there right now from Canada is dating a local home girl and he seems very reserved about their relationship, and the guy is a freakin player over here.

[metablue]

"Public displays of public affection" means, for example, making out. Not "hooking up" or "nampa". Do you really see as many PDAs in Japan as you do at home? In my experience, it rarely goes beyond holding hands in public.

Hooking up? Um. Hrm. /blush. That sounds more extreme to me than making out.

I don't think I've seen a PDA in the US for years, except on those days in San Francisco when people run around in g-strings and leather.

[Bueller_007]

"Public displays of public affection" means, for example, making out. Not "hooking up" or "nampa". Do you really see as many PDAs in Japan as you do at home? In my experience, it rarely goes beyond holding hands in public.

Hooking up? Um. Hrm. /blush. That sounds more extreme to me than making out.

I don't think I've seen a PDA in the US for years, except on those days in San Francisco when people run around in g-strings and leather.

To me, "hooking up" means "meeting someone", esp. "meeting a girl in a bar and taking her home". Not necessarily doing anything in public. But it's a pretty poorly defined phrase, I guess.

[Elderp]

When I was in Odwara (but this was awhile ago). People even so much as holding hands were looked down upon. I did notice Tokyo was more relaxed in a lot of things. I think the the PDA must be a Tokyo thing.

[CrazySwayzee]

What are the general rules for dating in Japan? Are they changing as more global influences creep in?

The biggest one is:
No displays of public affection (especially as a foreigner).

I think that's a good thing, don't you?

many a times i've seen people overly display affection in the public, and it's kinda gross.

but I imagine a small peck (kiss) on the cheeks is alright? or no?

[Bueller_007]

What are the general rules for dating in Japan? Are they changing as more global influences creep in?

The biggest one is:
No displays of public affection (especially as a foreigner).

I think that's a good thing, don't you?

many a times i've seen people overly display affection in the public, and it's kinda gross.

but I imagine a small peck (kiss) on the cheeks is alright? or no?

IMO, it's not.

If you move in for the kiss on the cheek in public, most Japanese girls will give you the "恥ずかしい！", even if they're very passionate in private.

You have to walk on eggshells, especially as a foreigner.

[CrazySwayzee]

What are the general rules for dating in Japan? Are they changing as more global influences creep in?

The biggest one is:
No displays of public affection (especially as a foreigner).

I think that's a good thing, don't you?

many a times i've seen people overly display affection in the public, and it's kinda gross.

but I imagine a small peck (kiss) on the cheeks is alright? or no?

IMO, it's not.

If you move in for the kiss on the cheek in public, most Japanese girls will give you the "恥ずかしい！", even if they're very passionate in private.

You have to walk on eggshells, especially as a foreigner.

wow, that's very interesting.

seems like it's one of the ways Japan is really different compared to the west.

in Italy, even the men kiss each other on the cheek, and in Japan, kissing is virtually non-existant

what a world we live in

[Ulver_684]

What are the general rules for dating in Japan? Are they changing as more global influences creep in?

The biggest one is:
No displays of public affection (especially as a foreigner).

I think that's a good thing, don't you?

many a times i've seen people overly display affection in the public, and it's kinda gross.

but I imagine a small peck (kiss) on the cheeks is alright? or no?

IMO, it's not.

If you move in for the kiss on the cheek in public, most Japanese girls will give you the "恥ずかしい！", even if they're very passionate in private.

You have to walk on eggshells, especially as a foreigner.

WOW! this is very interest information specially the eggshells walk for us foreigners!

[Ulver_684]

What are the general rules for dating in Japan? Are they changing as more global influences creep in?

The biggest one is:
No displays of public affection (especially as a foreigner).

I think that's a good thing, don't you?

many a times i've seen people overly display affection in the public, and it's kinda gross.

but I imagine a small peck (kiss) on the cheeks is alright? or no?

IMO, it's not.

If you move in for the kiss on the cheek in public, most Japanese girls will give you the "恥ずかしい！", even if they're very passionate in private.

You have to walk on eggshells, especially as a foreigner.

wow, that's very interesting.

seems like it's one of the ways Japan is really different compared to the west.

in Italy, even the men kiss each other on the cheek, and in Japan, kissing is virtually non-existant

what a world we live in

Bueller_007

In Mexico only girls kiss each other in the cheek has a greeting but men will NEVER do that to each other because that so Gay for us Mexicans!

I agree with you yes what a world we live in fill with seven continents with different customs! ahhhhhhh

[Outkast]

In Mexico only girls kiss each other in the cheek has a greeting but men will NEVER do that to each other because that so Gay for us Mexicans!

Nice, uh... phrasing...

It's about the same in Costa Rica though too. Women kiss each other, then will kiss you (a male) or expect you to kiss them, but everyone laughs when you pretend to move in to greet the other guy with a kiss. My father and his business partner have a running joke with that.

[Ulver_684]

In Mexico only girls kiss each other in the cheek has a greeting but men will NEVER do that to each other because that so Gay for us Mexicans!

Women kiss each other, then will kiss you (a male) or expect you to kiss them.

ohh yeah I forgot to mention that, the same way in Mexico too!